I have been single for four years i have two kids from my marriage. I have not been on a date ever. i married my high school boyfriend. Any advise on how to get over my trust issues and start meeting guys? I have tried online dating sites but always to afraid to meet them in person. I hate bars and clubs to.
Tags: Dating Sites, Marriage, Meet People, Online Dating, Speed Dating, Trust Issues
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You need to get out more often maybe with a group of girls and just be open minded. Don’t go out with the intent of finding a guy, but with the intent of finding a friend!
I”m recently single after 4 years and I too don’t want to meet a guy at a club or bar. I tried online dating and I’ve met two people so far and they seem pretty decent. The thing about online dating is that you can screen them through email first and then talk on the phone. Once you establish that you are ready to meet them in person you should just go for it. Make sure you meet at a public place like a restaurant for first dates. I don’t know how you can find a decent guy in 5 mins of speed dating…
I have never tried it.. It seems too impersonal.. Like you are shopping or something.. I say just be patient.. Don’t go out there desperately looking ( I know it’s easier said than done). And make sure you are socializing with friends and be open to meet new people. You don’t have to necessarily be in bars or clubs for that.. Start doing different stuff, going to new places, starting new hobbies.. Expand your social circle!!
gosh … i feel sorry for you . i would be too scared to meet guys from online too- there are a lot of freaks out there!!
maybe try going out in a group situation with some friends and their friends just to meet some new people , and at least you would be safe and being out with a group , it will be much more fun.
who know’s who you could meet
good luck
If you haven’t dated before I don’t recommend speed dating because there is so much pressure to make quick conversation and it doesn’t feel natural and it’s just too much effort to be honest. I suggest you give the internet dating another go. Why are you afraid to meet them??
Don’t tell them where you live or what suburb, meet them in a cafe that you know but it’s still at least 20-30 min away from your home. If you meet them and you don’t like what you see or there is no spark them don’t be afraid to say so but be polite and kind. don’t hand out your home phone no to men even if you like them, wait till you know them well enough as you have your kids to consider. Just give your cell phone no, and don’t give your address in a flash either.
I mean you have to date a few before you meet one that suits you, make sure you state on your dating sight that you have kids cos you don’t want to attract the wrong kind of man, men who don’t like kids that sort of thing.
Trust me it may seem hard at first but it’s a lot of fun, i’ve done it before and it was all good, didn’t have connection with any but I did meet a great guy who I’m still with and guess where he found me in my neighbourhood, so love can literally be around the corner.
Good luck to you and I hope you find a wonderful man.